I’ve often wondered why we let our failures define us and determine our future choices. Pick any successful person or business you know today and there are plenty of struggles and failures behind the scene that are often not talked about. That’s because no one really remembers your failures.

There are a lot of people today with great ideas and visions that will never see the light of day because they are afraid to fail. Then there are those who actually develop the courage to start something but never push past the comfortable range to its full potential because they are afraid it will fail. The last group is those who actually took the leap, started something and did everything to make it happen and it failed. Now they are disillusioned, bitter, burnt out and too afraid to take any further risk before they never want to end up in the same situation. Which end of the spectrum are you in?

I’ve personally lost count of the number of times I’ve failed in my entrepreneurial and personal journey. When you fail, especially at something that you tied so much of your identity and sense of self to, your self-esteem and self-confidence take a massive blow. You have this feeling that everyone is watching you and possibly judging you. This further magnifies the shame and before you know it, you start to act and talk differently. You are afraid to try new things or take any risks.

What if you had a different perspective on failure? Consider failure as feedback: a crucial lesson on what not to do. I’ve often maintained that I would rather make the wrong choice than stay polarised in indecision and not make any choices. At least if you make the wrong choice you’ll learn from it.

I now look back at most of my failures in life as stoping stones and in some cases as nature’s course correction mechanism that brought me other opportunities that I actually never realised I needed badly. A good example was failing in my second business caused to have this massive lifestyle change and as a result, I have more time with the family, my fitness is the best it’s ever been and this is probably the happiest I’ve been in this decade. I’ve also been able to reinvent myself and start to build my career and business in my own terms rather than build something that runs my life.

So, if you are struggling with failure, take a moment to review the crucial lessons from it, this is where the big opportunities life. Change your mindset to see failure as learning. Remember that while this might be devastating for your and possibly the closest people around you, in the end, once you’ve gotten past it, no one will really remember it. Your new success will overshadow your past failure. You to let your ego out of the way and allow yourself to go through the process of acceptance and healing.

There are a lot of people today with great ideas and visions that will never see the light of day because they are afraid to fail. Then there are those who actually develop the courage to start something but never push past the comfortable range to its full potential because they are afraid it will fail. The last group is those who actually took the leap, started something and did everything to make it happen and it failed. Now they are disillusioned, bitter, burnt out and too afraid to take any further risk before they never want to end up in the same situation. Which end of the spectrum are you in?

I’ve personally lost count of the number of times I’ve failed in my entrepreneurial and personal journey. When you fail, especially at something that you tied so much of your identity and sense of self to, your self-esteem and self-confidence take a massive blow. You have this feeling that everyone is watching you and possibly judging you. This further magnifies the shame and before you know it, you start to act and talk differently. You are afraid to try new things or take any risks.

What if you had a different perspective on failure? Consider failure as feedback: a crucial lesson on what not to do. I’ve often maintained that I would rather make the wrong choice than stay polarised in indecision and not make any choices. At least if you make the wrong choice you’ll learn from it.

I now look back at most of my failures in life as stoping stones and in some cases as nature’s course correction mechanism that brought me other opportunities that I actually never realised I needed badly. A good example was failing in my second business caused to have this massive lifestyle change and as a result, I have more time with the family, my fitness is the best it’s ever been and this is probably the happiest I’ve been in this decade. I’ve also been able to reinvent myself and start to build my career and business in my own terms rather than build something that runs my life.

So, if you are struggling with failure, take a moment to review the crucial lessons from it, this is where the big opportunities life. Change your mindset to see failure as learning. Remember that while this might be devastating for your and possibly the closest people around you, in the end, once you’ve gotten past it, no one will really remember it. Your new success will overshadow your past failure. You to let your ego out of the way and allow yourself to go through the process of acceptance and healing.

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