Imagine sharing a house with a really nasty jerk with says mean things to you every single day? Pretty soon, you’ll want to find a way to remove yourself from the situation and never have them in your life again. Unfortunately, we do this to ourselves. We are not the kindest people to ourselves. We put ourselves down and say things to ourselves that we would not be comfortable to say to even the worst of our enemies.
This weekend, I made a small group presentation on the topic of negative self talk. I’m a strong believer that our potential is unlimited but the main thing that stops most of us from being all we can be is our mindset and how we believe and say about ourselves. Several studies have linked negative self to an increased risk of mental health problems.
Good old Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.”. What we believe and say to ourselves matters. The first step to getting rid of negative self-talk is being mindful. Being able to pay attention to yourself and notice the internal monologue will help interrupt those conversations before you go down a spiral. Secondly, understand the situations and events that send you in a negative spiral so you can either avoid them or find ways to confront them. The process can take time but it’s worth the investment.